Reduce Stress with a Simple Word

Well, the year is winding down, and Thanksgiving is just around the corner.

Many people in the U.S. love this holiday because they get time off from work to spend with friends and family, eat lots of good food and get a jumpstart on their holiday shopping.

I love Thanksgiving because of all these reasons, but there’s more to it for me.

Usually, things are crazy at work this time of year, and I spend long hours in front of my computer.

By the time Thanksgiving comes around, I’m usually VERY ready for a break (you can probably relate!). Thanksgiving gives me a time to reflect — and what else? — be thankful.

This may sound hokey, but it really inspires me to move forward with my goals. I note all of the things I’m thankful for in my life, and the stress melts away.

In fact, this works so well that I use this process throughout the year.

Being Thankful Can Help You More Ways Than You Know.

When I start to feel overwhelmed and stressed, I stop and think of ten things I’m thankful for. It helps me focus on what is truly important in my life.

Try it. You’ll be surprised at how quickly your mindset changes.

Suddenly, the frustration in dance class, looming tax payments, big meetings, and more seem less intimidating.

Thanksgiving is a time to thank those in your life who have helped you become the person you are today. It’s also a time to reflect on what’s important in life and all of the things you can be thankful for – and this is a wonderful thing.

So wonderful, in fact, that I think it’s wise to think about Thanksgiving every day. Thank the people around you and be grateful for what you have whenever possible.

This process will help you focus on what’s truly important in your life, help reduce stress, and show others that you appreciate their kindness!

With this in mind, I’d like to thank you for reading this blog.

Enjoy your Thanksgiving!


Dealing with Disruptive Students in Dance Class

A Tip for Dance Teachers

Recently, I was contacted by a dance teacher who was having problems with a disruptive student. Since many of you may be having this same problem, I’ve reposted our messages with permission from the teacher.

Message from Dance Instructor:

“Hi. I am teaching funk to 5 to 10 year old kids. I have a hyperactive girl in my class who is 7 years old. Its getting difficult for me to make her understand about discipline in class without some warning. I don’t want to be harsh on her but she disturbs the whole class by not being attentive in class. Please help.”

Return Message from Dance Full Out:

“Thanks for your note. I suggest you have a polite and professional discussion with the students’ parents to let them know the issues you are having and see if they can help.

Also, do you have established studio rules? If not, I suggest you create a list of studio rules and post them in the studio and have your current and new students sign them. When you have new students sign their insurance forms when they begin classes, also have them sign a paper that includes studio rules.

On this paper, state that if students do no follow the rules, the studio owner or instructor has the right to dismiss them from the class without a refund. This way, they will agree to follow the rules, and you’ll have more control.

I hope this helps. Please let me know how things go.”

Return Message from Dance Instructor

“Hi Melanie,

Thanks a lot for the advice. At the start of the class itself I reminded some of the rules for the class for all the kids. Then I also gave every student a particular box on the floor (v have a white tiled floor) as their space so that they can stand in their place n I corrected their arm positions. I also took a small surprise test and asked them about what each arm or feet position is called taking special care about the hyperactive girl.

Giving her a chance to really focus and tune into her brain cells. Their was a moment, in the middle of the class, when she started distracting the class by talking to another girl when I had to be really strict that lead to direct stares at her by the rest of the class directly towards her. So she calmed down. I did spoke to her mother after the class who assured me that next time her daughter will definitely be at her good behavior and will not give any more chance for a complaint. Thanks a lot again for your helpful tips. It really, really helped me.”


I’m so glad things worked out for this dance instructor. Do you have tips for this teacher too? Please provide your comments below.

And for more dance teacher tips, check out these entries.


Dance Moms – Did the Dance Teacher Yell at You?

Out of Line Yelling in Dance Class

Recently, I received a message from a Dance Mom who had a question. Basically, a dance instructor yelled at her for taking her three-year old daughter out of class to use the restroom.

Has a dance teacher yelled at you and you thought it was out of line?

If so, here’s what I told the Dance Mom…

“Did you already sit down with your daughter’s teacher and discuss this situation with her in a calm manner?

Start with a calm communication and try to work things out. While your daughter should know the rules at the studio and try to follow them as much as possible, teachers should always allow young students to go to the bathroom when they need to (usually, they just ask the instructor if they may use the restroom). The rules are different for older students, but your daughter is only three years old.

If the instructor gave you a difficult time about this situation, even after discussing it with her, it’s time to look for a different instructor. A dance class for young students should have rules but also be fun. This way, the children can learn and still enjoy themselves.

Also, if your daughter felt badly about the situation, she may become more insecure in class and afraid to talk to her instructor. This is not good for the learning process. In addition, the instructor may treat your daughter differently now too.

There is no need for an instructor to yell loudly at a parent in a dance studio when young children are around (even if you see it on the show, “Dance Moms” all the time!). It’s immature and unprofessional. The instructor should have quietly spoken to you on the side of the room. After all, this whole situation probably upset the other, young students in class, and they are there to have fun!

Right now, it’s important to find a class that your daughter enjoys where she can have fun and learn some basic, dance moves. Otherwise, she won’t want to go to class anymore, and she’ll miss out on the joy of dance. After all, I was the worst one in my class at age three, but I had so much fun, I kept dancing into adulthood.”

Do you need help finding the right dance class for your child? Check out these dance tips here.


Dancers, A Six-Letter Word to Use in Dance Class

Will you say it today?

The holidays are coming, and that means you are probably preparing for “Nutcracker” and year-end performances.

Your life will get hectic with long rehearsals, extensive dance-classes, costume fittings, and school work… not to mention the activities you have planned with family and friends.
But while all of this is going on, there is something very important to remember… the little word with big results –


– Keep a thankful attitude.

When things get tough during dance classes, auditions or at rehearsals, give yourself a break. Remind yourself how lucky you are to be able to dance, and be thankful that you are healthy enough to move around.

– Send a thank you to the people who help you.

Take a moment to write a thank-you note to your teachers, parents, friends, and others who provide support and encouragement so that you can do what you love to do… dance. And while an e-mail is nice, a handwritten note means so much more.

– Offer a surprise treat.

If you are getting ready for a big rehearsal, take some healthy snacks or drinks to the dance studio to share with your fellow dancers during a break. It will be a nice surprise for them and show your appreciation for their collaboration and hard work.

A simple “thank you” goes a long way!

During this holiday season, it can be easy to forget how lucky we are to be able to dance.

When things get rough during rehearsals or class, remember to have a thankful mindset, and make a special effort to thank those around you who support your dancing.

Giving thanks is a simple thing to do, but it can mean a lot. Give it a try and see if it doesn’t help make your busy day a little better!

And with that, I’d like to say “Thank You” for reading this blog!

For more dance tips, click here.


Use These Two Words to Succeed in the Dance World

If you are just starting out in the dance world as a dancer, instructor or studio owner, you are probably overwhelmed with information and a huge, “To Do”list. If you are like me and have been in business for several years, you are probably swamped right now with end-of-year activities.

Well, whether you are a new entrepreneur or a seasoned pro, it can be difficult to focus and get everything done, especially this time of year.

With this in mind, I have two simple words that can change your entire outlook for your business and career, give you a sense of peace and help you build better relationships with everyone you work with.

Use these two words to:

  • Focus on what’s important.
  • Remember how far you’ve come.
  • Appreciate all of the people who have helped you.
  • Learn lessons from failures and move on.
  • Take a breath and de-stress.
  • Feel gratitude for everything you have and what the future holds.

What are these words?

Well, you’ve probably guessed them by now, but if not, they’re “Thank you.

Yes. They are two, simple words. They mean a lot to the people we say them to, but they also remind us to be grateful for what we have. Even the biggest issues seem smaller when you say these two, precious words. They are very important words that can lead to ultimate success – both personally and professionally.

So if you haven’t said them lately, please use them frequently this week. We all have a lot to be thankful for:even when times are tough.

And since it is Thanksgiving this week in the U.S., I want to take the time to thank all of you. Thank you for your feedback, comments and suggestions. Most importantly, thank you for reading this blog. It’s a joy to share information, and I hope you find it helpful.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!